@A myHIVteam Member
It may be time to discuss and try out having an open relationship based on both sides coming to a compromise and establishing some ground rules you both agree on. It works both ways. Sometimes these things happen when you tire of the same old hole and you desire something new, fresh, and exciting.
My late partner and I spent the better part of 15 years exclusive to each other.
My partner was very protective of me especially when some queenie would show interest wanting to get to know me better. When we were out in public, we never displayed any affection towards each other, just having respect and boundaries set, allowing us the appearance of being good friends, but we were more than that. Living on an island with a small population, the stigma of being gay or bisexual and having HIV was something that was well hidden and never discussed openly. My partner passed away on July 23, 2018 six years ago and till this day I have lived as a single bi-man. Do I wish there was more opportunity for me in finding someone else? Not really, but sometimes the loneliness creeps in.
Good luck my friend, tread lightly and respect each other's feelings when figuring these things out.

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How long have you been together? 7 year itch can be real? HIV meds can have an effect on your libido too. Have you been cruising little too much and developed that compulsive cruising mentality that keeps you looking outside your own relationship for something better? If you have been maybe cut back or stop. Relationships can be a lot of work. If its a new relationship and its not working then bail but if you have invested many years then talk, change and hang on to what you got.

I have been with my husband for almost 20 years now. He is HIV-I still gets a little uncomfortable being intimate—the thoughts of what if come into play. I can't control what he feels or thinks; what I can control is being honest with him, no matter how uncomfortable it makes me think. Being with someone is hard. The best I can do is tell him what I need, and he does the same. Yes, we are not always the best at it; hell, that's being marred. LOL

It's ok to feel how you feel; they are how you think. Your sex life will go up and down, and that is ok. Just keep talking to the person you are with.

Sit down and talk with your
Partner about this, I hope y’all can work everything out and don’t break up. As for me….mention the word “sex” an I’m pretty much the first one in line ready to go. Medications can have side effects this could be one of them

I think what must have happened is that we lost the attraction

Yo creo que lo que a de haber pasado esque perdimos la atracción