That's a hard call to make my friend unless you are 100% absolutely sure that he was the one. I did that when I first got diagnosed I went to the person who thought did it to me and I told him to get checked out. Choice is yours. Good luck. 🤗

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It is on you brother to make that decision. If it bothers you much I would let him know, if he already doesn't know, he could be actively spreading it and it is our responsibility to prevent its spread. Do something about it and you will feel accomplished and make yourself feel better about doing it. The ball is in your court dude. Do the right thing. John

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I'm not sure what state you're in, but you can always go through the Health Dept. They contacted me and will anonymously let them know they may have come in contact with HIV. They actually tracked down someone that has moved to Buffalo. I'm in Florida

I make it a tacit policy of mine to never disclose my status to anyone in any authority position over me e.g., employer. Unless you’re having UNprotected sex with someone, that is a judgement call. Otherwise U = U.

I would say to everyone, the past is the past, we cant change the past, but we can change the future. I did think Grindr was evil, however I met my current Partner on Grindr. He was actually searching for an hiv positive bottom guy for a relationship, when he messaged me on the Grindr app, which is very unusual on Grindr. I travelled 200 miles to spend 3 nights with this guy Id not met before. This was a huge risk for me, given I could have been stranded in a city 200 miles away, if he hadnt turned up at the Station to meet my Train. But it appears the gamble may have paid off. On the second night together, he asked me to be his Partner, (he only wants one to one relationship). Although I prefer open relationships,I agreed to his request of one to one only. Lets see what happens, He accepted my serious health problems and night time incontinence issues. So he seems to be a very reasonable guy. He does smoke and drink, which was my main concern, so Ive told him to moderate his drinking and to have only one or two beers. I also told him he's damaging his health by smoking cigarretes.
In case anyone wondered, I clearly put that Im HIV Positive Undetectable on my Grindr Profile, so there that everthing is clear from the start.