As soon as you find out. Now, if it is just a non serious boyfriend or a booty call. As long as you're safe. I don't think there's a need, ....
but if it's a partner and you're going to have unsafe Sex, because you are undetectable ,which you can by the way. I would tell him as soon as you find out.🤗🤗🤗

Before you have sex. It's always safer to lose a new partner. Then disclose to someone after the fact. You can't assume your new partner is as informed about HIV as we are.

That is true, i think we should be open to a partner if theres a sexual relationship, the person needs to know however difficult it is, that is there right and everybody body react differently, everyones immune system is not the same, we definitely need to tell the person, even if they stay or leave thats ultimately their decision. I'm sorry that you had to find out in such a situation, may God heal the brokenness that you have experienced and i pray you will have longevity of life . God bless have a wonderful evening.

Disclosure is the number one debate concerning HIV and for good reasons.
While I was not as responsible, as educated or cared enough to be vigilant when it came to sexual activities. The right to choose what potentially happens with my body, was taken away from me and I was victimized by my really good friend and lover. I got my diagnosis 4 days after my last birthday and 3 months before that lover died from AIDS related cancer. And I only found out because I just happened to show up at hospice as his sister was discussing his status with his medical personnel. Now he unconscious and unresponsive to external stimulation. After hearing it, I had to find proof. I had spent the first month after diagnosis crying on his shoulder and still he said nothing because we're are all told, it's our right to not say anything (unless you live in a state where the law states otherwise). If I wasn't already doing the bare minimum of testing, would I ever have found out I contracted HIV? Or that it was him that transmitted it to me?
So I filled my brain with HIV knowledge and took my personal destroyed feelings out of the the stance I now have. If I never got tested and ended up on my deathbed from AIDS related causes, he would have been my murderer.
He decided near the beginning of our lover/friend relationship that my life was not worth having a difficult conversation and his need to be comfortable and not have to deal with the situation was worth my life. How did have the right to make that decision for me? What gave him the authority to dismiss my life like its nothing?
You have the right to keep it to yourself for the rest of your life but NO ONE has the right to make a potentially life altering decision and death for someone else, without their knowledge.
Because while getting to U-U is amazing, truly, it's not a cure and we are human beings. None of us are perfect, we all make mistakes and struggle. So how can any of us, rationalize the decision to not disclose to everyone who's life could be drastically altered from interacting with us? I was so afraid I'd accidentally get cut at work, get into an accident before I got to U-U and I would unintentionally, unknowingly transmit my HIV to someone else, I created an on-the-go blood and bodily fluid clean up kit took it everywhere with me. Hell I still have it.
We don't have the right to choose our fear of rejection and pain over their lives.
And honestly, if we can't understand, we hold other people's lives in our hands, regardless if you made it to U-U, maybe we shouldn't be having sex.
And like my favorite superheroes uncle said "with great power, comes great responsibility". So maybe we shouldn't be asking when to disclose, but if we are capable of handling that responsibility in the first place.

Hi Paris I'm good thanks
Thank you for your words they mean a lot in each an everyone of us whether you Hiv negative or positive
Have a blessed Sunday