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Do You Find It Hard To Trust People:

A myHIVteam Member asked a question 💭
Seattle, WA

I ask this question because I have had my trust violated by many people. I have a handful of friends who I completely trust. My only family is my sister and can't trust her or her family at all. She has taken advantage of my having HIV and being gay ever since I came out, and was diagnosed. Also I got really burned in my last long term relationship which really made me cautious in trusting people.

Fully trusting someone and them trusting you is a true gift I think!

March 21, 2023
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A myHIVteam Member

I have serious issues trusting people being bisexual and having HIV, I'm often not comfortable being myself in social situations for the fear I'll be stereotyped. Plus it's destroyed my confidence in finding a female companion, I figure as soon as I say HIV, they're out of here. Most people are undereducated about being HIV undetectable.

March 24, 2023
A myHIVteam Member

That's a good question I used to trust wholeheartedly but not anymore we pick and choose our battles just like we pick and choose what we trust I give everyone a chance until they prove me wrong there are some people out there that I will never trust people that have hurt me used me or lied to me over the past year through counseling I've learned not to be so jaded but I do have my guard up just in case living a life of not trusting everyone is not good for the soul but keep your eyes open don't let anyone make a fool of you I guess what I'm saying is live life don't let anyone or anything stop you from living I used to be so scared all the time cuz I knew I couldn't trust because of being hurt too many times but now I just go on and live and I pick and choose who I let in my life I don't have many people that I can trust and I'm fine with that so please just live!!!!!

March 22, 2023
A myHIVteam Member
March 22, 2023
A myHIVteam Member

There will always be those who are just not good people. Don't let it feel like it just you. They spend there whole life being dishonest. As I've gotten older I just keep mind that they are out there so watch out.

March 21, 2023
A myHIVteam Member

Currently having an issue of trusting myself to be kind, be in a state of grace, and not hurt/offend others. My current experience is a nephew sent me the final composition of his PhD dissertation. I asked him for the document because I was doing a writing of my life story in bullet format to share with my blood family. Surprisingly, the dissertation was about me, my brother, and our families both immediate and extended. The dissertation is about "intergenerational psychology as it applies to Tlingit (indigenous) people." I was never consulted nor was I asked permission to have my name on a document to be seen by others. I'm an attempted abortion at birth or during pregnancy. My brother and me were placed into the State's foster system when I was age 2 that included placement in orphanages and several foster homes. There's more to this story but you can guess my mistrust in others, people specifically, began back then and remains the same today. THe gist of the nephew's dissertation is full of untruths and exaggerations. If he'd consulted and/or asked permission to share my story, maybe I wouldn't feel offended or angry. I've had so many examples of being used by other relatives...even "friends." The only person I trust is ME! And even then I'm at times afraid. Yet moving forward, being positive, sharing my experience with this group, feels "safe." Thank you for this safe space.

August 7, 2023

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