pretty much now if you're undetectable, chances of passing it on are slim. this doesn't mean you are 100% in the clear. i'd still have the discussion for peace of mind.

My boyfriend is neg and I’m newly diagnosed so I’ve only had a short time to think about it but I would be devastated myself. I think our relationship would survive but I really don’t want to know. I was so glad when he took his first test after I learned about myself and he was OK. I’m going to try to keep it that way.

My bf and I have had that talk. For us we both assume the consequences of our actions and I believe the relationship would stay the same, especially because I’ve been the one insisting on condoms and monitoring my condition