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Why Is It More Isolating To Be Partnered, Than Being Single ?

A myHIVteam Member asked a question 💭
Brighton, England, United Kingdom

I recently found a new Partner, on the Grindr App, having been single for 10 years. He proposed to me, as I was not actively seeking anyone for sex or a relationship on Grindr. I simply maintain a profile there for chats or browsing. My new Partner lives 200 miles away, I visited him in Sheffield two weeks ago, and he has cancelled his trip to visit me this Saturday due to lack of money to buy a train ticket. I offered to buy him the $30 ticket, but he's refused. I could book a hotel in… read more

August 14 (edited)
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A myHIVteam Member

Hey Mark I feel that not sleeping.....I take one pill but I still be up with my "ways" it's probably (trauma, combined with my dream), but that time difference wow! New York is ok (after covid) like everyone doing their thing here in the Bronx (I stay local) but the money looks flowing (because ppl look good)....yet I'm not ever been totally on track with a team (family here) to support me in the complex ways we need a support system here.....so I feel like I know I was playing with my own logic.....(lying to myself).....so @A myHIVteam Member I stay motivated to get it together but no real plan to get real about the tough nature of feelings, I need humbleness (common sense)....

August 15
A myHIVteam Member

I do hope everything works out for you both ❤️🙏🙏❤️🌈

August 15
A myHIVteam Member

Man these relationships give me so much perspective on why I never dated......man (well life does that too) but hopefully lgbtq love is possible for me in this day (realists of our culture/ but also a hurt person)......but I hope I learn some of these lessons about relationships after I grow up.......but yall should be proud that yall have experienced your partners......some people rarely get to enjoy escaping poverty, or gentry, or slavery, or true evil of unknown Diaspora........or just self inflicted hurt.......and then we all gotta story (it seems yall have seen the mulberry bush).....but mark idk know you but maybe you know already and you need patience to allow strength to breathe fresh air into your life and decide whether you need a friend or a man.....maybe you need to reevaluate your pain, or level of understanding you again before you can love another.....(if you're not dealing with loss, if you want to go into business, if you truly need to catch up with the times, if you aren't dealing with your family, idk just throwing it out there), and trust I'm talking to myself more than to you......also pre judging Grindr but im also not a qualifier to speak because I never had grown up, nor do I have experience in this relationships that yall have.....
Good Luck

August 14
A myHIVteam Member

I read a few red flags main one being you feel better off single. That’s why I’m single because I’m just not gonna settle for anything or anyone. I don’t care if I’m HIV positive I still have standards.

August 14
A myHIVteam Member

He asked me for a monogomous relationship. If I dont feel able to maintain that, I will of course be honest and tell him. Moving in here is not possible as I was forced to take a Studio Apartment(sole occupancy) due to the shortage of accomodation in Brighton.

August 14

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