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Has Anyone Been Judge For The Mistakes I Or You Made In Your Past,

A myHIVteam Member asked a question 💭
Illinois City, IL

Why do they look at that and not see the reason 🤔 why or the real you today and how you change for the better? The past is the past u cant change the past but why can't they see how you change for the good 🤔? Yes I made amends whether they took it they said they did 🤔 don't know

August 13 (edited)
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A myHIVteam Member

We're humans living among other humans. Yup we are going to be judged whether we like it or not. Of them, some are just going to assume stuff. I see that a lot in what I see written about me locally. Mostly given the BS they're writing my take is that they've a right to be stupid and they are demonstrating that when they do that. Not worth my time....

I coped with the 70's by become non-reactive (pun intended) to being called queer or faggot, et al. Even to this day I just reply "YEP" which they never expect and it shuts them up pretty quickly.

So now I am poz, it's a virus not a moral tramp stamp. I am blessed to have a poz community I can come to; get advice, ideas, and choose to live a happy day.

August 13
A myHIVteam Member

I wasn't judged at first by my soon to ex son in law. He took care of me before, then a few months ago he started calling me an HIV whore. Over and over again. It stung but I didn't let him know it. He said I hope you die. That's the last time I let him in my house. Police were called because he tried to hit me with his first and threw my phone on the floor. Found out that's considered a hate crime and I could press charges. But I'll wait for that. And my own "mother" said I should have died so she wouldn't have to deal with me. She got evicted from my home after disrespecting everyone here and hitting my daughter and trying to hit her son. Sorry so long but, yes,I've been judged by family and 2 supposed friends. No longer friends because I let toxins go. I love being here. Non judgement and everyone has helped me learn more about this disease. I love you all

August 13
A myHIVteam Member

I get judged all the time for being HIV, many don't understand the virus still. They still tell me "you have aids?". I reply, "no, I don't have aids, I am hiv+" End of conversation.

August 14
A myHIVteam Member

@A myHIVteam Member isn't this group great?!?!

August 14
A myHIVteam Member

I was, sort of. My dad, may he RIP kind of judged me when I first got infected. It wasn't judge per SE but more from a place of disappointment and care. I think he was disappointed that I got it so early in life, didn't use protection, all but nullified my chances of having children, and a general dissatisfaction with the lifestyle I chose and chose me.

August 13

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