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I Am A Woman Who Wants To Date Men Again. Why Do I Feel Like I Am Too SCARED 😥😥to Start. Does Anybody Else Put Up DEFENSE'S????🤔🤔

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June 5, 2023
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A myHIVteam Member

It can be difficult whether it's with someone poz or not. You don't have to say anything up front. Most of them aren't. worth it. Only when things begin you get serious do you tell. My longest relationship of 13 years who wasn't poz. I'm currently in a situation with someone who isn't also. I've dated some who were. So they're alot of both out there. Just be secure in who and what you need and deserve. Regardless of your situation. Wishing you the best of life and love!

June 10, 2023
A myHIVteam Member

The worst thing is being in a relationship with someone who thinks they are doing you a favour. I appreciate hiv limits our grounds when it comes to getting into new relationships, but it does not make us any less human beings. Nobody should accuse you of intending to destroy the community/world. To begin with, you are not the creator/author of hiv virus. As it stands, pollution and climate change are doing far worse. I have not lost hope of finding my true love. How? Tell me🤔. For I don't know. Lucy

June 9, 2023
A myHIVteam Member

U are not alone w/the dating situation. Especially if you go online. The scammers are all over the HIV dating sites. Then there are the sites that are scams themselves. Just as you cancel your membership all of a sudden you get a response. But @ the end of the day, dating is dating. U have to screen people. Do not settle for less than what you need. Better to be all alone and lonely than to be in a relationship all alone.

June 17, 2023
A myHIVteam Member

That should be everyone pos worry but best tell him just when he makes his intentions clear to stay or long term relationship. That should be early before affection/intimacy. So he decides to stay or leave. Never settle for less because of the virus

June 11, 2023
A myHIVteam Member

You are not alone. After I was told I am hiv positive, I thought that no man could love me. So when I met this man in a hiv support group in London, I believed I was the luckiest of all women. The relationship was based on virus not love. A fact I came to realise after one painful year of gaslighting. Once I realised I was worth more than I thought, I walked out on him in the middle of the night and never looked back. This happened 21 years ago. I have tried to date but still cannot and/or have no faith that a man will truly love me for me. I do not want a relationship based on a virus. That is my inhibition and worry. I have tried but I have no guts to see it through. Scared as hell. My advice don't base your relationship on a virus, you are bigger than it!

June 7, 2023 (edited)

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