I told my son when he was 15. It was hard to not say anything because all the kids saw was mom super mad and hurt and wanting to leave dad. He played the victim card and took advantage of me keeping our diagnosis secret to the kids. All the kids saw was a mean mom that had dad sleeping in the living room even though he was very sick. One day I took the courage and sat down with my son an explained what was going on. He was sad and heartbroken but at the same time he saw we were both better health wise every day. With my daughter i’ve been more strategic. She knows some things but not all of it. As she hits puberty and other things I want to use my diagnosis to empower her and inform her on practicing safe sex. Learning from the mistakes I made with my son I want to make sure her knowing my diagnosis is not a scary thing.

2 of the oldest kids were actually with me when I got the phone call to go get tested. They already knew I had just broken things off with the guy that hid from me he was positive, not taking his meds all the time and being unfaithful with several other women. My son and daughter were both in their young 20's so they were already grown. My son went with me to get the results. My other daughter I told the same day I found out. She was 14 at the time. My grandkids are too young to understand yet but when the get older I will have a sit down with them and talk to them about it. I feel it's important they be informed and educated. My kids are a big part of my support system.

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My 4 yo grand son tries to understand and he does, my 8 and 12 yo granddaughters understand completely. The time will come when you know it is the right time to share with her. Thank You!

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Ehhhhhh me waiting for her to get mature mind. But started reminding me to take My meds at age of 3yrs till now when dinner is served she whispers in My ears.

Yes, I have had no problem explaining certain things to my children and they in turn explain to their children. Absolutely nothing to be ashamed of; just look at it as a badge of courage. It helps that my nature is to be an honest and truthful person. And to hold my head up high. It is amazing how self-confidence, strength, and courage will get you through anything.