@A myHIVteam Member i was diagnosed last May and was put on my med in July. I was undetectable by the middle of August. I think it all depends on your med, body, etc. I’m still learning and trying to accept. But i refuse to become detectable or sick and really really really hate my husband even more than i do now. Peace and blessings beloved

I completely went the other way after I became undetectable. I was scared for a year and then I dated and had awkward sex. After I found my ex-bf my sexual drive came back and intimacy was amazing. Now I enjoy it 💯 but I’m also plagued with people in my life that just want sex and not intimacy. It’s draining. I’ve made a choice to love myself and say no to sexual advances and invest time on someone that’s willing to know me (my emotions, thoughts, personality) first before anything else. It’s been a learning curve that took a toll on my mental health. I’m feeling better and somewhat empowered as I cut off all these unhealthy relationships from my life.

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Your youth will bless you with more bedroom activity on this new journey.
Patience and self care along with taking your meds and ultimately becoming undetectable is where you want to be when you are ready.
Everyone has their own timeline. I haven't totally given up on having intimacy because like you I really enjoyed doing it and still have some hope. Aloha babe you've still got the looks!

@A myHIVteam Member I’m trying to strategically get out of this marriage as we speak. I can’t wait to say “ex husband” but as i told him in our last argument. “Every time i take this stupid a** pill i think of you so it doesn’t matter if you’re here or not... you will always be an unfortunate part of my life” and we haven’t quite been the same since 🤷🏽‍♀️

You are very brave @A myHIVteam Member and admirable for the fortitude you have.
Yes, you are worth way more than just someone to have sex with, this is the issue I have myself, most guys just want the sex and sugar daddy. That is not me and will never be me. Sex is great but it is not the end all to many things we want in our lives. I am satisfied without having sex with someone else in my current state of mind. I just haven't found the right one nor am I looking. I am still a looker and care for myself mentally and physically. There are very few of us on Maui and I like the simplicity of it. Aloha Love, take care! John

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