What happened happened with me was my 'illness' became a topic of immunity gossip as my father chose to discuss it with a group of people I do not care to know. It's I,possible to live a full enriched life as the small community has no knpwledge of the condition that is of my concern only.
In went to coffee with a cousin to get an email that as I has AIDS I mightinfect her husband. That cousin is an RN,
To amplify the issues is a once friend broadcast it nation wide so there is no safe zone.
When out of critical then my life long friend appeared. 'I don't believe that discussing any illness is of primary concern, I need us to get through this together' I went through a living hell based on the compassion of a chosen family.
With my best friend we tool a quick bus and ferry to a Gulf Island. He commented that he had missed me and if not too invasive would like to discuss it, 'You have been my brother by choice so let's sit down and rewrite our vision board'
Educated people are far less likely to judge, Once I retired from a 27 years of airline work I looked closely at the added value of the people that I had shared those years with. Vancouver was 13 years and only one of hundreds have proven they are non judgemental and a bowl of ramen noodles is 4 hours of laughter and personal chit chat.

I am very fortunate my sister has always been there for me. My brother has been out of both of our lives for over 50 years, not hostile just no communication. My relatives are all in the medical fields and they have never been anything but respectful.

I know how you feel my friend. I tried to get my family involved when I moved back to Pennsylvania but to no avail. I found that they really did not care nor could be bothered. I too have increased my distance from them to the point where I moved and did not tell them. They have had troubles with my being gay and thus with me being HIV+. My friends are off doing their own lives and could not be bothered with me. Thus I find that I am alone again and with the COVID-19 virus, I have had a difficult time making new friends here. People have always said that gay people are the worse for not having support and die alone more than in the heterosexual population. I believe that is true especially with those who are HIV/AIDS. I am scared, but I know that I am not defeated yet! I know things will change, but, nothing will change with my family. I wish you happiness in your life and path. A BIG HUG from me to you my friend!!