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Feeling Fragile

A myHIVteam Member asked a question 💭
Burlington, VT

There are times in all our lives where we are in a situation and feel fragile. As if a change could pull the rug out from under you and you could lose the support people that you rely on. In other words, how do you deal with the feeling that you might hit the floor and shatter?

February 24, 2019 (edited)
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A myHIVteam Member

@A myHIVteam Member Great advice, John.

Sometimes these feelings come up. In this case, I knew the cause. It's because my best and most supportive local friend who I am with several times a week is sick. After having lost my husband recently, I react in probably not the most positive way when the people closest to me aren't well. They're my support network and I don't want to see a single one of them suffering. Fortunately, she has an appointment at the hospital tomorrow to futher investigate what is wrong.

In my case, walking or exercising was not an option because of rain/sleet/snow/ice that we had yesterday but what worked tremendously well for me was breaking through my blockages and painting. It made me feel so much better.

February 25, 2019
A myHIVteam Member

It’s tough to not worry that my health could go south and I’d have to stop working and supporting myself.

March 3, 2019
A myHIVteam Member

Go for a walk and fall in love with nature, then go somewhere and write. Journaling is a great way to let go of negative feelings without breaking something or hurting someone else. It helps recognize repeated mistakes or negative things you carry inside about yourself. You can begin to work on self love and healing those broken peaces.

Since my diagnosis I bottle up my fear of everything that goes along with it. I'm a single mother in full time college. I am at least 2 hours away from any close friends to 'bond' with. So I have to write things I used to be able to speak, those thoughts need to be thrown up onto paper.

February 26, 2019
A myHIVteam Member

@A myHIVteam Member

Taking stock of the positives and negatives can work wonders. It really didn't calm me down this time though. Many times that sort of thing does work tremendously well. Life is strange how sometimes one thing works and at other times, we need a different approach. Thanks so much! Here at least, we are not alone and there was so much amazing and supportive advice from all of you.

February 25, 2019
A myHIVteam Member

@A myHIVteam Member

Talking with someone always seems to help, does't it? That was another thing I did do. Fortunately, they reached out to me when they realized I was going down.

February 25, 2019

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