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What Did You Think About HIV/AIDS Or People That Had HIV/AIDS BEFORE You Was Diagnosed?

A myHIVteam Member asked a question 💭
Edmore, MI

This came up in a discussion earlier for me. We all know what the discrimination or the stigma is of this virus now. But before you was diagnosed, what was your true feeling about HIV/AIDS or people who had it (if you knew of anyone)? How different was your view then compared to now?

September 27, 2019
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A myHIVteam Member

I never treated anyone differently. I met many people with AIDS and HIV, many that died, and my that still have HIV, I always treated them decently and never judged any one by their diagnosis.

June 21, 2023
A myHIVteam Member

Michael, my partner, had a friend (we'll call him John) with HIV/AIDS when we met in 1993. I'm trying to think if I treated him any differently and I honestly don't think I did.

"John" actually passed shortly after Michael and I moved to NC in 1997. It was December. We visited him in the hospital a few weeks before he passed and Michael left me alone with "John" for a few minutes. I told "John" I was so sorry he was having to go through this. His response, I'll never forget. He said, "Aaron, I did it to myself." That was heartbreaking to me. He didn't do it to himself, but in his mind he had. I never once corrected him.

He had asked Michael to give his Eulogy and Michael was so apprehensive. I told Michael, "John" would not have asked him to do it unless he Really wanted him to.

Michael was the only speaker at "John's" Funeral. It was the Day after Christmas and only a grave side service and a bone chilling day. "John" was very loved as there were in excess of 200 people at the service. Michael and I had over a 2 hour drive to get there and I remember getting out of the car and hearing whispers of several attendees, "That must be Michael."
I have never had a prouder moment than watching Michael take the podium on "John's" behalf. It was one of the most moving experiences I've ever witnessed. Michael Never once mentioned HIV or AIDS but spoke of "John" and his contributions of his time here. It humanized the disease that took "John" away from us, but was never credited by Michael. It was very moving.

I can only hope to passed before Michael so he can, too, deliver My Eulogy. 🙂

Sorry, this is not an answer to this question, but the question brought up such fond memories of our Friend.

July 2, 2023 (edited)
A myHIVteam Member

My attitude has changed a little. I am much more health conscious. I have always eaten well, but I try to limit my junk food consumption. We watched a friend pass in the late 80's early 90's.

June 7, 2023
A myHIVteam Member

I never thought it as something bad just took it like any other disease because my mum had it before she died with aids my sister too.Infact i use to respect anyone i had it and use to feel compassion especially when was in the orphanage and like 75% of the kids there had it.So until i get it and my brother too until he ignored the meds and died with aids.Hiv is how you take it accept it stay long ignore it and die soon.That is how it is all in all am so grateful that i can get the free meds and stay alive....HIV & ASIA

September 27, 2019 (edited)
A myHIVteam Member

I didn't have any negative or positive thoughts about it, but I did know of someone who had HIV, and like some nieve people I thought that I would never contract the disease, so now I try to be there for my friends who have contracted it recently because I didn't have anyone personally to help me through it.

May 22, 2023

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